Conversation Helps
These are starting points—adapt to your voice and context. The Pause can be silent—an internal reset before you respond.
🛠 3 Ps in Action: Comment Edition — a quick helper for composing your reply.
Pause—Starter Lines
“Quick pause—I want to hear you without rushing.”
“Can we take 30 seconds to breathe and reset?”
“I’m noticing I’m getting defensive; give me a moment.”
“Before we keep going, what matters most to you here?”
“Would you be open to a timeout and a fresh start?”
Why It Works
Naming emotions lowers reactivity and keeps things respectful.
A brief pause gives both of us time to think clearly.
It protects the relationship while we figure things out.
Pinpoint Truth — Starter Lines
“What’s the exact claim we’re evaluating?”
“Can we write it in one sentence with a date/place?”
“What would be a fair source we’d both trust?”
“Is this about facts, values, or both?”
“What evidence would change your mind—or mine?”
Why it Works
Specific claims can be checked; vague feelings can’t.
Agreeing on sources avoids ‘gotcha’ debates.
Separating facts from values keeps the conversation clearer.
Proceed with Purposeful Forethought — Starter Lines
“Let’s each bring one source we trust and compare.”
“Let’s set a 10-minute limit and revisit tomorrow if needed.”
“I respect you; we see this differently—and that’s okay.”
“Here’s the part I’m rethinking after hearing you.”
“Let’s note what we agree on before we close.”
Why it Works
Sets boundaries and keeps momentum.
Models flexibility without caving on your values.
Ends with clarity—even if you still disagree.
Practice Challenges (optional)
Try a quick scenario using the 3 Ps. (Coming soon.)
Truth Check
Hard to admit, right? Me too. But pausing and clarifying—in real time—is how we grow. Truth Check.